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phr.片語實際上
The plan seemed perfect on paper, but in actuality, it was a disaster.
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為什麼我們談戀愛需要慢慢來？❤️ (Why We Need to Take It Slowly in Love)
- Such self-possession might sound denying and sad. Why such miserliness? Modernity was supposed to have liberated us from decorum. We were supposed to have been able to let go of rigmaroles of propriety for the untrammelled callings of our hearts. But slowness does not necessarily need to have anything to do with prudishness or social moors. It can be where we land once we have built up a more profound understanding of the psychology of love. Whatever we may tell ourselves, love is far from being simply all we humans want. However heady and beautiful it might appear from a distance, it is something that may, in actuality, terrify us as much as it delights us, something we are as much tempted to flee as to embrace. Caution is therefore logical. To stand helpless and vulnerable before another human, to hope that they will see us as we are and still care for us, opens us up to a genuine and uncommon risk of devastation.
這樣的自持聽起來可能會讓人感到拒絕和悲哀。為何如此吝嗇？現代性本應將我們從禮儀中解放出來。我們本應能夠放下禮教的束縛，聽從內心無拘無束的召喚。但是，"慢 "並不一定與謹小慎微或社會荒原有關。一旦我們對愛的心理有了更深刻的理解，它就會成為我們的落腳點。無論我們如何告訴自己，愛情遠非我們人類想要的全部。無論從遠處看，它多麼令人陶醉，多麼美麗，但實際上，它可能會讓我們感到恐懼，也可能會讓我們感到高興，我們既想逃離，也想擁抱。是以，謹慎是合乎邏輯的。無助而脆弱地站在另一個人面前，希望他們看到我們的真實面目並依然關
- However heady and beautiful it might appear from a distance, it's something that may, in actuality, terrify us as much as it delights us—something we're as much tempted to flee as to embrace.
真愛的印記... (The Mark of True Love...)
- We humans have an immense appetite for complicated things, neuroscience, astrophysics and molecular biology of course, but also barely decipherable books, abstract works of art and avant-garde pieces of theatre without plot or character, all of which perhaps evoke the primordial puzzles of the universe and our own always ineffable existence within it. But our veneration for complexity can reach a most painful, time-consuming and futile zenith in one area in particular – relationships. It's here that we find otherwise discerning and hard-headed people exhibiting extreme patience, often lasting over a succession of tormented years, for what we can call complicated situations. The complexities may arise from some of the following dynamics. A beloved partner who wants to commit and surely will one day but not quite yet on account of this or that factor or not entirely because of certain psychological fears or not conclusively or at least not without certain important caveats. They may need space, freedom or what they call a chance to explore though quite what was still not wholly clear, though we have asked them on many occasions. Then a partner with whom there are a lot of misunderstandings, around whom words often lose their standard meanings, around whom we may have to spend hours untangling what was truly meant and around whom gestures or deeds that we previously thought uncontentious suddenly become the occasion for major surprising aggravations. Or a partner who in principle is there for us and in theory loves us very very much but in actuality – like last week and the week before that – is constantly remarkably busy, unable to respond to our texts, out with their compelling friends or concentrated on their always extremely demanding job. Or a partner with whom we sit up late at night on many occasions with a pad and paper to hand attempting to determine where the issues are coming from, what is at play and how things might be handled before, baffled and upset, we finally have to retreat to bed a little after 1am feeling fragile and tearful.
我們人類對複雜的事物有著巨大的慾望，當然包括神經科學、天體物理學和分子生物學，但也包括幾乎無法解讀的書籍、抽象的藝術作品和沒有情節或人物的前衛戲劇作品，所有這些或許都讓人聯想到宇宙的原始謎題以及我們自身在宇宙中始終難以言喻的存在。但是，我們對複雜性的崇尚在一個領域會達到最痛苦、耗時和徒勞的頂峰，這個領域就是人際關係。在這裡，我們會發現那些原本明察秋毫、鐵石心腸的人表現出了極度的耐心，往往要持續數年之久，以應對我們可以稱之為複雜的情況。這種複雜性可能源於以下一些動態因素。心愛的伴侶想要承諾，而且有朝一日肯定
- Or a partner who, in principle, is there for us and in theory loves us very, very much but in actuality—like last week and the week before that—is constantly remarkably busy, unable to respond to our texts, out with their compelling friends, or concentrated on their always extremely demanding job.
如果我們發現自己在一個聯盟中徹夜不眠地寫日記或通過望遠鏡觀察最新的模糊信號，這可能只是證明我們已經超越了我們對任何人都應該表現出的耐心。或者，按照我們的簡單原則，更直接地說，我們現在可能只需要離開。
英國建築瑰寶：巴斯！ (Bath: England’s Architectural Jewel)
- In actuality, in Bath, there's a tale of two buns and two shops which tell them just 20 metres apart from one another.
事實上，在巴斯，有個關於兩種麵包和兩家店的故事，它們只相隔20公尺。
- In actuality, in Bath, there's a tale of two buns and two shops which sell them just 20 meters apart from one another.
事實上，在巴斯，有個關於兩種麵包和兩家店的故事，它們只相隔20公尺。
如何駕馭情緒？｜情緒智商大解密！ (how to master your emotions | emotional intelligence)
- In actuality, both men knew nothing about the homeless man,
他們的情緒會被他們認為所看見的事情深深影響著。
- In actuality, both men knew nothing about the homeless man,
事實上，兩個人對於流浪漢都是一無所知，
測測你的個性適合哪種醫學專科？MBTI 大解析！ (Your Medical Specialty Based on Personality | Myers-Briggs Breakdown)
- Judgers are commonly misrepresented as being more organized when in actuality both judgers and perceivers can be equally organized or disorganized.
裁判型的人常被誤解為更有條理，但實際上裁判型和感知型的人都可以同樣有條理或沒條理。
- Judgers are commonly misrepresented as being more organized when, in actuality, both judgers and perceivers can be equally organized or disorganized.
你最認同哪種MBTI，以及哪種專科最適合16種類型中的每一種？
怪奇物語第五季第二部你錯過的10件事！ (Top 10 Things You Missed In Stranger Things Season 5 Vol 2)
- In actuality, it's beyond refreshing to see the young couple actually be honest with one another.
實際上，看到這對年輕情侶能誠實地面對彼此，真是太好了。
- In actuality, it's beyond refreshing to see the young couple actually be honest with one another.
而南西這句話雖然聽起來像是在開玩笑，卻觸動了更深層的心絃。
自信溝通的 3 個說話技巧！讓你開口就超有說服力！ (How to Speak Confidently and Communicate Effectively (3 Tips))
- One of the biggest mistakes that I see professionals making in their workplace and that diminishes their own personal brand is when they talk about a topic as if they're the expert, when in actuality, they know very little about it.
或模式的經驗是，他們只知道他們做什麼，但他們不
- experts when the action when in actuality they know very little about it
行行出狀元，實實在在，知之甚少
神蹟奇觀 紀錄片完整版 高畫質 HD 觀看！ (God of Wonders Documentary full length watch in HD & HQ)
- You see, in actuality, we committed high treason against the God of creation.
造物主特質的光輝。例如，人有自由意志。
- to save us from what we did. You see, in actuality, we committed high treason
拯救我們脫離我們所做的。實際上，我們犯了叛國罪
塑化人生 ～ 劇情紀錄長片 (PLASTICIZED ~ Feature Documentary Film)
- in actuality, I think we all find it startling that in every single trawl
事實上，我認為我們都對每一次拖網
- While we make light of these old decaying chunks, in actuality, I think we all find it startling that every single trawl from the last 2,000 miles has contained bits of plastic confetti born from these chunks.
進入我們收穫來餵養世界的魚類體內。